Role of parents- the importance... Anmol Singh Child psychologist in Chandigarh Parents must realise and appreciate that children seek and demand space as they grow. Children have aspirations and dreams to be successful. The minor adjustments and compromises with their beliefs necessitated/forced upon in their course of struggle make them brood and unhappy. Comparisons, not only with peers but also with faceless on the social media, does not let the child completely accept self with his/her own weaknesses and strengths. A concerned parent must develop understanding/ compromise with own ego and prove to be child’s most trusted friend to let them confide their issues/fears/worries in them in order to fully support the child gain confidence in his/her strengths at the time he/she is going through turmoil due to internal conflicts.

Repetitive pattern A client came and told my wife was always good to me. Once I was sick she helped me so much. Now she don’t want to see me and she is not living with me. Why this happened to me I want to know the reason in my past life. Session........ I am living in a small house with my wife and daughter. It is night time. I am talking to my daughter. Next day I am going for work. I am an engineer working at a construction site. I am checking some papers. I came back to home in the evening. I am talking to my wife. Next day a man came to us. He is my relative. We all four of us are going to the city market. It is India. I have a motorcycle so we are going in a three wheeler. My wife looks upset. A car is going nearby and she is looking at the car. She is telling me to buy a car now. One day I was going on the motorcycle to market along with my daughter. (she is also my present life daughter and wife is also my present life wife). We met with an accident. My daughter got hurt. She got plaster on leg and stitches. My wife is very upset. My daughter is admitted. I am staying with her. When my daughter got discharged my wife came to pick us. She came in a car driving by herself. We are very quiet. Next day we argued a lot. My wife is speaking lot of things to me. It is very hurting to listen. We pushed each other. She is packing her things. She is taking daughter along. She is taking a three wheeler. The car is not outside our home. I feel it was someone’s car. Now I am alone. I keep on going for my work. After some time my daughter contacted me. They live in some hill area. I am arranging for her hostel admission. She is very happy. I did not meet my wife because I felt very hurt in last incident. Life is going on. My daughter is growing. I meet her in her hostel. Now I have a car. I go to meet her in car. One day she told me that my wife had an accident and died. I am taking to my daughter about her marriage. She agreed. There is very good wedding arrangement. I am alone making the arrangement. I am tired but feeling happy. Now I am old living all alone. I have my three friends who are also old. I meet them in park and walk. One day in morning I died in my home. My daughter and my friends came and cremated me. My life was good but me and my wife did not live together. I am in the light and getting healed. Reorientation..... I understand that I am repeating the same pattern in my married life. I do hope i break the pattern now. Thank you Doctor Vandana. Dr.Vandana Raghuvanshi at 1:24