Dr.Vandana RAghuvanshi,hypnotherapist & past life therapist, life coach, NLP Practitioner, Chandigarh, INDIA

Learning to accept the things that we perceive as wrong can be a difficult task for many of us. Often we have been brought up to accept that it is normal to feel guilty about our actions & that by doing so we will make everything seem alright within ourselves. Even though we might feel that we have a reason to make up for the choices we have made, it is much more important for us to learn how to deal with them in a healthy & +ve way, such as through forgiveness &understanding. 

When we can look back at our past & really assess what has happened, we begin to realize that there are many dimensions to our actions. While feeling guilty might assuage our feelings at first, it is really only a short-term solution. It is all too ironic that being hard on ourselves is the easy way out. If we truly are able to gaze upon our lives through the lens of compassion, however, we will be able to see that there is much more to what we do & have done than we realize. Perhaps we were simply trying to protect ourselves or others & did the best we could at the time, or maybe we thought we had no other recourse & chose a solution in the heat of the moment. Once we can understand that dwelling in our -ve feelings will only make us feel worse, we will come to recognize that it is really only through forgiving ourselves that we can transform our feelings & truly heal any resentment we have about our past.